Introduction -- The role of mediation and collaborative law in the divorce process -- What happens in mediation -- What happens in a collaborative divorce -- Deciding to mediate or collaborate -- Proposing mediation or collaboration -- Finding a mediator -- Finding a collaborative attorney -- Using advisers and doing legal research -- Getting started on information-gathering -- Evaluating your progress in mediation or collaborative divorce -- Communicating in mediation or collaborative divorce -- Negotiating in mediation and collaborative divorce -- Court-sponsored mediation -- Encountering difficulties in mediation and collaboration -- Writing up the agreement -- Women and men in mediation and collaborative divorce -- Unmarried couples in mediation and collaboration -- Mediation and collaboration after divorce.